194,622: number of books about success on Amazon.com Clearly, success is a hot topic. Rather than spend thousands of hours - and dollars - on hit-or-miss advice from the gurus, I invite you to consider that the answer may be simpler than you think. Success is fed by pronoia. What is pronoia? It's the belief that the universe is conspiring in your favor. It's the opposite of paranoia; Pronoia is … [Read more...]
“If They Only Knew…”: A Cure for the Common Critic
"You work so hard!" (What do you mean, I only work a fraction of what I should...) "You're so successful!" (Don't let the nice website fool ya...) "You've got your act together." (Ha! You should see my desk!) "You're so good at ____." (But I stink at everything else.) "You're so brave!" (If you only knew how afraid I was...) Mirror, Mirror, On the Wall... I was having coffee with a colleague a … [Read more...]
Freaks, Geeks and Introverts
If you're an introvert, you must be a geek, right? Just like if you're an introvert you must be shy, or misanthropic, or quiet. Right? Yeah, right... not so fast. Even though we've started to clear the air about what it really means to be an introvert, there are still lingering stereotypes that deserve to be squashed. And as I'm about to share, I'm not immune to perpetuating an image of … [Read more...]
When You Don’t Click with the Clique
We've all felt it. Even if there's a place in our lives where we're on the "inside" of the group, we've all experienced many more places where we're on the outside looking in. For me, I'm on the inside when I'm with a group of my coaching colleagues with whom I've interacted over the years. Sometimes, but not always, I feel that way when I'm around other entrepreneurs. But more often than not, … [Read more...]
Why Laughter is the Best Introvert Medicine
Today I posted a humorous short article on Facebook that originally appeared in The Onion. It was about the "local introvert" who attended a party and was trying to make the time go faster by preoccupying himself with food, coats and tying his shoes. Three people immediately "unliked" my Page. Was it something I said? The experience flashed me back to last week, when I was interviewed for … [Read more...]
5 Habits I’m Changing After My Wonderful Webfree Week
It was one morning in early February, and I was still in that cozy place between being asleep and awake. A little voice inside me said, "Go off the grid. Take a week off from the internet. Clear your head. Get $#!% done." It was so clear, and so random, I knew I had to do it. I told my husband about my plan to go webfree for a week, and while I can't remember his exact reaction, … [Read more...]
Making Every Day World Introvert Day
I am an introvert. What does that mean, and why does it matter? Let's get this out of the way first: it's not a label, a box, or a limitation. It's not something to overcome, reject, or be embarrassed about. It's one very influential aspect of my complex being that informs choices I make every day. On a basic level, it means I gain energy from solitude and silence, and drain energy from … [Read more...]
How to Be Who You Already Are
When I was a music major in undergrad, my friends and I were orchestra groupies. We'd go to as many concerts as we could and always want to go backstage afterwards to see our teachers. Early on, we learned that we needed to act as if we were entitled to be there: wear all black, maybe carry our instrument with us, breeze through the side door with a look of authority and confidence. It's … [Read more...]
Is Your Mojo Stalled By FOMO?
A few weeks ago, I was conducting an Insight Strategy Session with a client. She was concerned about whether she was offering the right services. Here's a piece of the conversation: Her: "I got a call from someone who was interested in working with me. But she was asking if I could offer something I really don't do." Me: "How close is she to your ideal client?" Her: "Well, she's something of a … [Read more...]
How to Act Like an Introvert
"Did you know that recent research shows that extroverts are generally happier and that introverts feel happier when they act extroverted? Even the Wall Street Journal is talking about it (http://on.wsj.com/15XiVuN)." If that opening sentence sounds familiar, it's because I've written about it before. I was ready to let the subject go for the time being. After all, who has time to chase down … [Read more...]
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